Throughout the centuries, there has been a tough question which has no clear answer among people about how to do? Can it be really hard to shape a dough like this? Sometimes, all answers are under the nose of us, yet cannot be seen. Raising up a child is perceived quite hard according to many people because human being likes making life difficult for himself/herself as always. If it is believed that any task is not simple to complete without taking an action, it will be not simple, so. Although there are many rules or methods recommended persistently by many child development experts, the answer of how to bring up a happy child is not known because experts are used to talking generally. It is necessary to know that every child has a different character features and soul. So, the answer can be found by only people whom a child lives with, not by another people basically. As for what the answer is, in three main steps, it is possible to raise up a healthy, happy child in every aspect. Observation, keeping order, and setting free. Be a child development expert of your own children in your life.
Observation is the crucial step in order to apprehend which abilities or abnormalities a child has. From the time a kid was born, sense organs of a baby must be checked rather carefully because sometimes it cannot be noticed in the hospital whether a baby has any problem with the sense organs at first. Parents, for instance, must check their baby’s ear, whether s/he hears or not by playing hiding anywhere at home and calling with him/her name loudly, or by playing index finger, they can make the baby follow the finger to check if their baby’s sight is clear or not. These examples can be multiplied. As to second reason why observation is so vital, the capabilities of the baby can be understood by only observation. If the baby or a child is observed carefully, which faculties s/he has can be detected. For instance, parents can give crayons and a paper to observe whether their baby will like painting. Another way to understand the baby’s ability, if the baby (or child) often dances with the rhythm of the music on TV, it means that their child has rhythm sense. To be sure s/he has an ability, parents can enroll their baby for a music course to play a piano or violin, because playing any instrument, especially these two mentioned above, accelerates children’s motor development incredibly. What does mean that? When the child starts school, s/he will not have much difficulty in math or science lesson. Briefly, observation is the most beneficial rule that must be applied for every subject.
Keeping order is the second step even the toughest step must be applied, as it must be done by parents first. All children are mimetic and record what they see or hear. Each behavior, gesture and facial expression extremely important what parents do. So, in order to enforce discipline to a children parents must give importance to their own sayings and behaviors. Being disciplined obtains children how to manage themselves in every task. Self-managing is an art. Parents, for instance, must direct their children without applying reward-punishment method while they are enforcing discipline their children because as the time passed, children learn being opportunist with the rewards they take. In other words, children will hope a reward for their every achievement, therewithal with the punishment, children learn being scared from their parents. Punishment-reward method does not work in the long run. Another benefit of being well-disciplined is manage the time. This means that children know when they study or rest, when they sleep or wake, and so on. Parents, to illustrate, must not remind them to do their homework on time, or them to go to bed. Children who are able to manage their times effectively, will never do their assignments in a hurry or leave them in a last minute. Therefore, any child who obtains both self-management and time management is tranquil. Contended mind is a perpetual feast.
As to the last step to set them free, freedom is a need like water or food for each individual. To say ‘Set them free’ does not mean giving them limitless freedom. It must not be forgotten that there is no limitless freedom in the earth. Actually, freedom means that knowing their own limit in every aspect. If parents, for instance, give them independence fractionally, there will be no pressure on them. In other words, if there is not any pressure, there will be no stress. As it is known that anyone cannot give healthy decision under the stressful conditions. This means that being independent makes children’s mind open to understand their environment clearly. Additionally, to set them free in making mistakes, teaches them not having any fear from taking risk. Parents, to illustrate, frequently must try how willing and insistent they are by giving them hard mission to complete. Learning whether their children are durable and determined for what they desire to have can be possible by setting them free in their decision or mistakes. Taking a risk and trying without giving up in any situation is the character feature that must be taught in the name of raising up a self-confident individual. Freedom is a right of each individual.
To sum up, being an expert for only your own children means that you are good at monitoring, obtaining discipline and teaching limitations of their freedom. These three steps both make parents and their children happier if these steps are applied persistently, yet this does not mean that everything must be in discipline every time. Although it is necessary that there be limit in freedom or rules, there must be no limit in love. From the time when we took them on our arms, we fall in love with their every gesture or behavior such as their smiling, their walking, their first words. Everything which is done without love, can never be successful in any case. Nothing can be acquired even though these three steps are applied efficiently. Without love, there cannot be cook as we all know, from my perspective. On my own behalf, what I did, I did with love in the name of raising my daughter. My slogan is in this subject; ‘Whatever you do, do it with love!’
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