Is Geography Fate?

Throughout the centuries, there have been some fundamental terms such as love, passion, marriage since the genesis of the human being. We all know stories or tales about love and couples who love each other but never reunite with his/her beloved until the end of their lives. Although we were grown up with these enviable love stories, how can we trample this great sentiment under the feet?

We, unfortunately, deplete all the happiness and beauties that we have in the name of humanity without noticing how we affect the society. As we lost these kinds of feelings, relationships are influenced adversely, as well... In this context, it is not staggering that the institution of family is at risk on account of such kind of deformation. For instance, according to Statistics Institution of Turkey, the rate of marriage has been decreasing while the divorce rate has been considerably increasing day by day. Unless any precaution is taken , there will be no nuclear family institutions within three decades according to research. Although there are lots of reasons lying under divorce, the main reason is that women are more independent since they engaged more in bussiness life and earn their own living compare to the past decades. To gain the economic freedom gives power to the women yet it is not an adequate reason for them to want to divorce. In other words, they no longer stand being under pressure or violence or et cetera. If a woman who feels herself under pressure, is exposed to insult or deceived, and moreover she earns enough to sustain both her life and her children, she is likely to divorce instead of persisting in the marriage. Divorce can seem as a solution most of time, but when it comes to psychological side, earning enough money is not sufficient in terms of living alone. In the Middle East societies, due to lack of morality and according to the social conditions and rules, if any woman chooses to live on her own, she has to sail near to the wind bravely. After experiencing some undesirable incidents because of being a lonely woman, she begins to look for a new shelter to be protected. At this point, no matter how much she resists to all kinds of difficulties, she is compelled to a new man while escaping from another. The rules of the social life for women were written thousands of years ago by the men. Unfortunately, there has been nothing done radically to change the spoilt system.

All in all, without love, we can not talk about relationships, and without relationships we can not allude to the word ‘family’ which is essential for all of the societies. Social system is extremely important (!) than a woman’s life.

Should women who think that they will be independent when they divorce reconsider the geography they live? Or, is geography fate?

Melike Çelik